This week we will look at a couple who have had fun, enjoyed life and yet they have not prepared for the future. A turn of events in life brings them to the realization that their life style needs adjusting and they must think ahead. Meet the Andersons, Samantha and Bill.
Samantha and Bill truly loved life and everything in it. They worked hard and played hard and just never concerned themselves with tomorrow. The most popular couple in their upper middle class neighborhood, they were the life of every party and were always at the top of the invitation list. And they also liked to throw parties, inviting guests to evening cookouts and swimming at their tropically themed home in Central Florida. Their happy go lucky nature was infectious and Bill could make a crowd laugh for hours.
Unfortunately, things at home weren’t nearly so much fun as they seemed to others. Oh, they loved and were devoted to each other but they had never planned for life and were “living on borrowed time” as far as their finances were concerned. Bill and Sam both worked and had good jobs; Bill was a construction superintendent and Sam was a successful real estate broker, yet they never saved money or planned for a rainy day.
As if this wasn’t bad enough, they had not completed an estate plan, had no will and they had not saved sufficiently for the future. Funeral planning was out of the question and no evaluation of funeral costs and funeral expenses had been performed, nor had any funeral plans even been contemplated. The two of them were a disaster waiting to happen should fate rear its ugly head.
Sam was a shopaholic, always picking up unneeded things while Bill was always planning short, yet expensive vacations that they could ill afford. And, of course, their entertainment expenses were high. But while Bill acted unconcerned outwardly, he had deep seated fears inside about what the future for his family might be. His two children were grown and reasonably self-sufficient and Bill also worried that they had developed the same lifestyle habits that they learned from him when they lived at home.
Despite his nagging concerns, life went on in its usual fashion until tragedy struck in Bill’s family. His older brother, Jack, a good and wise man was killed in a serious car accident. Upon notification, Bill and Sam hurriedly got ready and were off on the eight hour drive to the old homestead.
Jack bought his parent’s home from their estate when they died and the extended family gathered there for most holidays. Special birthdays, Christmas, and usually at least one long weekend in the summer brought these two brothers together with their families for fun and frolic, but Bill was always a little bit jealous of his big brother for having the finances to buy the place. He always loved returning to the family homestead, however, and he was glad it had stayed in the family yet he knew it would never be the same again with Jack gone.
Arriving late in the afternoon, the house was ablaze with lights and a number of cars were parked out front indicating that friends were giving their condolences. As they walked to the door, nephew Paul came and greeted them with a hug although there were tears in his eyes. He and his dad were extremely close.
Sister-in-law Jean excused herself from her visitors and came to the door, hugging them both. She was holding up well and she dearly loved Bill and Sam.
“You know the drill, Bill,” she said. “Put your things in your guest room, wash up if you want and then come down and meet some of our friends. We can talk privately when everyone is gone.”
After freshening up, Bill and Sam came down to visit. They knew some of the visitors and all reminisced about Jack and what a good man he was. When the visitors left and the extended family was together, Jean asked them to come in the den. She had something she wanted to show them.
“Jack told me many times that he wanted you at my side in carrying out his wishes, Bill”, she offered. “Here is his funeral plan and I’d like you to review it with me. Sam, you’re welcome to participate if you wish.”
Sam just sat nearby listening while Jean went over things with Bill. He was absolutely amazed at the detail of the plan. Jack had prepared in advance a complete funeral plan, starting with the estimate of likely funeral costs and funeral expenses and the source of the funds to pay for his final rites. The body already was on hold at the cremation services facility and would be cremated after Bill had the opportunity for a viewing. The funeral would be in two days and Paul had served as the obituary writer since he was a literary agent.
“I’m really lucky, Bill”, Jean said. “Jack had his estate plan in order with his attorney and probate will be easy. I am fortunate that I will be able to live comfortably although it won’t be the same without him”.
Bill hugged her as tears began to flow, and Sam also patted her on the back. Then, after she sighed, she told Bill that Jack had left a special envelope for him. She went to get it.
Returning with an impressive box and an envelope, he knew what it was. The box contained his father’s coin collection and a gold ring he had received from his father when he was a little boy. Jean said that Jack wanted him to have it as he knew in his heart that Jack wished he had the family house.
Jack sobbed and didn’t know what to say. After all, Jack didn’t have to show such generosity. It was a very valuable assortment and the ring was also appraised at great value, but the sentimental value was priceless. Jack had received it as was customary in families where the father was born in the Old Country, in this case Scotland.
The funeral went well and after a four day visit, Bill and Sam headed home. While driving, Bill poured out his heart about how they needed to change their lifestyle.
“Sam, we have to learn from Jack and Jean,” he said. “We’re in our late forties and we have to start saving money and stop living above our means. I don’t want something to happen to me and leave you with a mess.”
“You’re right, Honey,” Sam replied. “I want to live a long time with you and I don’t want us to end up in our old age in poverty. Let’s talk to John next door; he’s a great financial planner. Let’s make a plan and stick to it.”
When they got home, they went to work to solve their problem. John helped them analyze their situation and offered suggestions for how to change their lifestyle and make up for lost time. It was difficult at first, but once they got into the groove, they were surprised at how easy it was. And for the first time in months, Bill’s nagging concerns were gone. He felt better than he had in years.
And every night when they turned in for bed, he said his prayers and he thanked God for using the tragedy of his big brother’s death to wake him up. He promised to stay on course for the rest of his life.
“And Lord”, he asked. “Please take care of my big brother until I see him again. And tell him I love him.” Then he smiled as he drifted off to sleep.
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Author of Honey, We Shoulda’ Bought the Ark, a 2014 best read selection of American Pet Magazine